Apr 1Better on the Other SideThoughts on nuanced faith and post-Mormonism, for those in the middle of their own faith journeys — “When we are fully committed and “all in,” heaven shakes for our good.” Gary Sabin, “Stand Up Inside and Be All In,” April 2017 General Conference I scribbled those words on a piece of paper and kept it with me for years. When I first heard them, I was 28-years-old…Exmormon7 min readExmormon7 min read
Jan 11, 2021Inviting Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Christlike Love in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day SaintsWhen I started questioning certain aspects of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I knew one person I could safely talk about it with — my best friend who I already knew I could talk to about anything. As I began sorting through my thoughts and could more…Smg Articles4 min readSmg Articles4 min read
Dec 7, 2020There is No One Right Way to be a Latter-day SaintA good friend of mine recently became angry with me because of differing views on a matter. It had been several weeks since we had even discussed that matter. His reaction was sudden and surprising. In retrospect, I doubt his anger could have stemmed solely from that one matter. …Lds3 min readLds3 min read
Nov 17, 2020I’ll Be Eating Frozen TV Dinners for Thanksgiving, and I’m Genuinely So GratefulSometimes you need to walk away from a situation to overcome a certain hardship, but sometimes you can’t. Or you can’t walk away exactly when you’d like to. And that’s where resilience is built. In January of this year, I moved to a small town where I knew no one…Covid-197 min readCovid-197 min read
Nov 5, 2020The One Thing I Do When Stress Piles UpIt feels counter-intuitive to stop when you are in chaos. When there is stress on your shoulders that you can’t shake away. When it starts to get real. For me, it’s the struggle of finding a job in the middle of a pandemic, when I don’t qualify for unemployment benefits…Stress Management3 min readStress Management3 min read
Nov 29, 2019What Healing Has Really Looked Like For MeLast week I published an article entitled “Get Over It: Why you should work through your trauma and stop self sabotaging.” In it, I share the experiences of two different people — a guy I briefly dated a few years back, and one of my best friends — and how…Relationships2 min readRelationships2 min read
Nov 19, 2019Get Over ItWhy you should work through your trauma and stop self sabotaging — Years ago I went on a handful of dates with a very charming, fun guy. He had been married before, and that relationship ended badly — a fact he was very open about with me. Part of that story was his ex using his money to get breast enhancement surgery…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inAscent Publication·Oct 27, 2019Turning my “Plan B” into “Plan A”Letting go and enjoying the journey — I recently caught up with a long-time acquaintance of mine. Almost immediately he asked how my dating life was going. I replied that I had dated quite a bit over the last few years and nothing seemed to stick, but that I was okay with that. …Life3 min readLife3 min read
Aug 31, 2019Dropping Out, and Why Quitting Is — More Often Than Not — Totally OkayI wrote this on June 1, 2018 when I was trying to decide whether or not to drop out of a half marathon I had been training for and had my heart set on for the last 6 months. I felt like I needed it today, so I pulled it…Running4 min readRunning4 min read
Published inThe Startup·Aug 9, 2019“I Can Learn To Swim” And Other Truths The Growth Mindset Taught MeOn March 30, 2019, I lined up on the deck of a pool with hundreds of other people, swim cap on head, borrowed goggles ready to put on, nose plug discreetly tucked in the pocket of my spandex shorts, ready to put on. I began to shiver with nerves as…Growth Mindset8 min readGrowth Mindset8 min read